Everyone thinks flatting with friends will be so much fun. In some cases im sure it is but for me it was the worst year EVER!! My first year out of home I went into a flat with 5 other girls 2 of whom I knew well but the other 3 I had only met once or twice to sign the lease. But they weren’t complete strangers they were actually friends with one of the girls I knew well. So it shouldn’t have been that bad right?
Well it started off not that bad with us all getting along and me and one other girl had boyfriend now you know at this age when you first meet someone and start dating you’re attached by the hip so both our boyfriends were sleeping over all the time. To say the girls did not like that we had boyfriends would be an understatement, they would say we weren’t hanging out enough with them but we literally lived together and saw each other everyday. It got to the point where me and this other girl could hear them downstairs saying horrible things about our boyfriends and us.
I never really understood what drives girls to shit talk other girls especially when me and my friend with our boyfriends were just minding our own business. It got so bad that I was scared to even go downstairs to cook dinner or have a shower I would look over the balcony just to see if anyone was downstairs in the lounge and I’d sprint so that no one would see me. And this then turned into being to scared to even stay there so I would lock my door and spend all my days at my boyfriends flat instead.
Whenever I would return the girls that hated me and this other girl for no reason but having a boyfriend would start hiding the toilet paper and the soap so that we couldn’t even use the toilet in the place that we were meant to be living and in the place that we were paying $200 a week for.
That was my first experience of living from home and I was horrified like I couldn’t even live there anymore it made me so upset. I was being punished just for having boyfriend and for hanging out with someone else but them. But at the start of my flat the girls would have wine nights and we would all hangout so I just never understood it.
A piece of advice for this time would be to definitely make sure you know who you are flatting with because I feel like since the other girls didn’t know me as well they didn’t care about talking shit about me and my boyfriend and my other friend and her boyfriend. I am so glad that I had this other friend who it was also happening to because without her I would’ve felt so lost like maybe it was just me and my personality but it wasn’t. I think to them the concept of having a boyfriend meant that they were missing out on things? Sometimes I think was I really the issue, was I not hanging out with them enough? But I think I realised when they started running to bathrooms and taking all the toilet paper out that they were super crazy lol.
Hope you have the best first flatting experience and just watch out for people who you don’t trust yet and don’t feel bad if you don’t hangout every night! Because that’s what I felt like and it wasn’t my fault everyone needs their own space and ITS OK TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND!! Sometimes friends get jealous of that and that’s not okay because you belong to yourself not to a boy and not to your friends.
Much love,
Mrs Advice xoxo