Anon asked : Hey! I really struggle with anxiety, to the point where it is a huge effort to even leave the house. I fear judgement from people, I get scared of what they’ll think about my looks and weight etc. I don’t really know how to get past this or improve it so I can be happy and live my life to the fullest. Please hellllllp
Hi there! Anxiety is definitely something that can take over someone’s life and I’m sorry that it has done this to you to the point where you feel like you can’t even leave your own house.
Unfortunately people judge no matter who it is walking down the street, at least one person will look at them and judge the way they look, their voice, their walk and this happens even if it was a Victoria secret supermodel walking down the street. But there are also people who look at you and wish they had what you did that is the way people work.
I myself have suffered through social anxiety where I feel panicked if I have to talk to a cashier or answer a phone call sometimes if someone calls I still feel like I’m going to throw up. I just bare through this pain though because if I don’t talk to the cashier or I don’t answer the phone call who will? Its like if you don’t leave your house because you are scared of what others think when they look at you how will you ever go grocery shopping or hangout with your friends or have a birthday party because no one else can do any of those for you but yourself.
My thoughts in terms of the subject of people judging you is why worry? I know its not that easy and I know its hard not to but for me to stop caring and just talk to people I always think why am I bothering thinking about what someone else is doing with their life when I should just be focusing on my own and living my life to the fullest.
When you need to leave the house I want you to try a breathing exercise pretend like there’s a birthday cake in front of you and you have to blow out 10 candles with every breath and do this a few times. You can also think back to when you were a little kid and you had no worries in the world. Ask yourself would you as a kid want yourself to be scared of leaving the house? No! You would want your older self to fight to have the best life you can 🙂
Anxiety is a mental health issue though in the end and it is hard to push past this so definitely also consider going to a therapist or a doctor and ask for more things you can do to help but I hope that I have at least helped a wee bit.
Don’t forget everyone is beautiful in their own way so I know that you are beautiful and I hope you get this sorted out because I know how hard it is to live with something that makes it hard to live.
Much love,
Mrs Anxiety xoxo