I feel like there is a moment in everyone’s life where they believe they are having the worst luck ever. Some people say when life throws you lemons make lemonade but what if life throws a whole lemon tree at you… that’s just too much lemonade!
This has indeed happened to me. When I was 18 or 19 both my grandma and my nana were diagnosed with different types of cancer. Obviously cancer is something that in old age just deteriorates you and that’s what happened to both my nana and grandma at the exact same time. Within a week or 2 of each other they both passed away.
I thought nothing else bad could happen to me after this but still continuing on in those 2 weeks my cat got hit by a car and after that my boyfriend who I had been dating for a few years broke up with me.
I know what you’re thinking “That can’t have happened all at the same time” Oh but it did. I thought I would never be able to escape my dark and depressing bed ever again, I even thought I would never be able to take another breath. It feels like life just needs to stop but it doesn’t stop for anything or anyone.
When you have that much bad luck you think that surely just surely you have to win the lotto next – but sadly that didn’t work for me lol.
It’s hard to have advice for a time where you feel like 5 trains are all running you over. But I think the only thing you can take from this is that things like this happen to everyone and to me that is the most comforting thing. You feel like it is just happening to you and that no one will ever feel as you do, but someone, somewhere has and you just need to hold onto that, you also need to hold on to the fact that you will make it out of this dark time in your life. I know it’s cliche but there really is light at the end of the tunnel so please stay because you will make it to that light.
Another piece of advice I wish I had in that moment is that I had my family around me experiencing the same thing – maybe not the break up because that would be weird if all my family was also dating him :p. My parents were probably even feeling worse then I was because it was their parents that passed away and now they didn’t have the people in their lives that raised them. So if you’re in a situation like this then go be with those who are experiencing the same thing as you. That’s what I wish I did I wish I could go back and be with my family and hug them and just feel all our feelings together.
Feel your feelings in these instances of extreme bad luck and just difficult times of life. Holding it in will just make you explode later on down the line.
I wish I had more advice on this topic but really it’s all about your situation and it is really tough when you are going through it to ever think that you will get out of the rough patch. All I can really say is you will.
Much love,
Mrs Advice xoxo